Friday, August 31, 2012

Friday, August 31, 2012



The red eye flight from Kelowna to Calgary to London, Ontario was harder on my system than the much longer one from Kelowna to Vancouver to Incheon.  Jay thinks Koreans wax too eloquent about Korean Air, but I can testify to the fact that they do have a point.  When compared with West Jet, their stewardesses are more beautiful and elegantly dressed (which I know that I, as a woman, should not even mention) but more importantly, their seats have more leg room and recline much farther, they serve half decent food with wine and they give you eye masks, blankets and pillows.  West Jet has wonderfully, almost excessively, cheery employees, but the seats recline so little it’s hardly worth having the passengers put them in the upright position prior to take off, the drink and tiny package of snacks is not worth opening your eyes for and the blanket which you pay $3.00 for is made of some hyper synthetic material that sheds so much you have most of it on your clothes by the time the flight is over.  I’m sure many people were pleased that both in Kelowna and in Calgary we waited for West Jet passengers who had been delayed by lightening in Vancouver, but for the rest of us this only added to the three hours we were already going to lose by heading east.  We arrived in London at about 7:30, and I dragged my bags to the Tim Horton’s.  The coffee gave me enough of a kick to get me to the ‘Arrivals’ door and outside to wait for Kathy on a bench.

 Approaching Walkerton, I began to experience a sensation of hollowness and a constricting in my throat that I now recognize as the first physical manifestations of the sadness I feel when I visit places or do things that remind me of Jim.  This happened to me this trip in Ottawa and Wakefield too, more than it did last year when I went east for Blake’s wedding.  But being with Cathy was good as usual, and I soon felt fine.  The whole area was visibly less lush than usual.  Much of the corn was stunted beyond the point of recovery, but some things were slowly returning to green after the rains that had recently fallen.  Now it’s the Okanagan’s turn to be hot and dry.  I’m glad I’m missing it, but I wonder what’s happening to the cedars.  Mo and John checked the house, and she e-mailed that my neighbor was watering the lawn, that’s what interests her, but I wonder if she’s also done the trees.

I’ve enjoyed this trip because I’ve stayed long enough with friends to be able to do everyday things with them.  I went with Cathy to watch her unintentionally hilarious niece Nicole try on wedding dresses.  I can still see her stumbling out of the change room, mumbling for help, stuck inside a too-small sample dress.  She’s gorgeous but quite large, so most of the dresses were too small.  On top of that they were uninspiring designs, not at all what she envisioned herself in.  Within 20 minutes her cheeks were flushed with heat and laughter, she gave up and we left.  I also had time to see more of Mark and David and their families, collect eggs, pick vegetables, eat well as usual and even attend Nicole’s memorial party for her mom, Cathy’s sister Karen.   I rode the bike out to the barn with Kathy when she tended David’s pigs, but being in there almost made me gag.  Joining her to swim with the grandchildren and eat Hanover pizza on the other hand was easy to swallow. 

Micheline picked me up on Monday in her VW Westfalia, and we took our time camping in style on the way to Ottawa.  We spent Monday night in a campground on Georgian Bay dining on filet mignon, fresh vegetables from Cathy’s garden and wine and breakfasting on Micheline’s fine coffee and Cathy’s orange and date muffins.  Sticking to side roads, we slowly made our way to Port McNicoll where I had landed with my family when we took the Keewatin there from Thunder Bay.  It was the summer I was in grade nine, and I still have glowing memories of a dress I wore and a boy I met who was working on the boat and who gave me my first real kiss one night on deck near the smoke stack. There were two passenger boats that traveled that route at the time, the Assiniboia and the Keewatin, and I’m not sure which one we took.  I thought the ship was luxurious and remember that the chefs made Boston cream pie especially for a group of Scouts from Boston that was on the boat.  The waiters were university students, and one of them tripped coming through a swinging door into the dining room with a full tray.  Plates, cake, custard and chocolate flew everywhere.  As Miche and I drove to the port, I spotted what turned out to be the Keewatin.  What luck!  They had just brought it back this June.  The Assiniboia burned some years ago.  I was surprised to learn that the Keewatin had actually been one of 5 ships built in Scotland and brought to Canada around 1912.  The Assiniboia and Keewatin were built to be taken apart when they arrived and separated into two parts to be moved into Lake Superior.   The Kewatin was a coal burning ship, so I had my first kiss beside a smokestack that belched coal smoke.  Since I also remember a horse-drawn vehicle delivering our bread on Empire Ave. and an icehouse at Loon Lake, I must be old.  One of the pamphlets in the museum that is next to the Keewatin states that it is the last of the Edwardian era passenger steamships.  We spent our second night camping on the shore of  Lake Simcoe and had a leisurely drive to Ottawa the next day.

Miche left me at Don and Mela’s where I stayed for about a week in comfort, with good friends, two very different dogs and a cat.  Mela and Don had a party on Saturday night.  We sat outside, ate, drank, talked and laughed. I was happily surrounded by many of the old gang.  For the first time in ages, I was in a group that consisted mostly of men.  Sadly, Tina’s mom had died recently, so she wasn’t there because it was the day of the funeral, and Connie was feeling too ill to come to a party.  I missed them.  I drove one day to Wakefield and saw Barb and Rod.  I had a great kayak with Barb past our old houses and some new ones.  Then I swam with Faye and ate lunch with the two women and Rod.  That day I also visited the Smiths.  We sat on the dock, swam and I saw Heather.  The Baughans had me for dinner one night with Danbrook and Geoff and Megan, so I was able to keep in touch with their lives and again eat well and enjoy wine and conversation.  We had a gathering of the WWW at Paul’s place in the country.  Again some weren’t there, but those of us who were walked, swam, ate well, drank wine, even smoked, laughed a lot and made felt pins for the Grannies to take to the Grannies in Africa.  The group is getting increasingly crafty, but fortunately the unskilled job of sewing on pins was not beyond me.  Miche introduced the game of ‘Treize’, which had us screaming at the improbability of randomly turning up the card you call.  Although, we readily admitted we knew nothing about the laws of probability, it did amaze us how often the number that was called was turned up.  This fun kept us up until it was nearly midnight, so we still have a tenuous hold on the adjective ‘wild’.  I spent my last days with Caroline and Albert, visiting with them, eating in the garden and having dinner with Mara and Ella and Sadie.  We had lunch at Gabe’s restaurant and shopped for an I-pad and stove at Future Shop, so I got a true slice of their life too.  That’s what I enjoyed about this trip. 

The train ride back to Guelph was fine until we pulled into Union Station in Toronto just as the train for Guelph was leaving.   We were herded into Alcove D in the windowless, low-ceilinged basement of Union Station where we stood around, clueless, for about 15 minutes until a woman in an ill kempt uniform finally wandered in.  When we complained that some of us had seen our train pull out, she proudly stated that VIA had a new CEO whose policy was that their trains waited for nobody.   And I had cursed West Jet for having exactly the opposite policy.  Where is the happy mean?  She then stated that she would be back in 15 minutes with pizza and that we would be taking a bus to Guelph.  Half an hour later she returned with the most thick crusted and tasteless slice of pizza I’ve ever seen and said the bus would be arriving soon.  It was another 20 minutes before she returned and told us to follow her.  The bus was caught in traffic because there was a festival going on, so we would be walking to where it was parked.  Dragging our baggage, we walked in a sad sack line up a wide ramp, out of the basement and into the bright, high-vaulted main station, out the big doors, down the street, across an intersection, past people, mainly young, some dressed in the fashionable gear of urban dwellers and some in outrageous costumes, along the side of The Royal York Hotel, across another intersection and on about two more blocks to where a white bus with nothing written on it awaited us.   I was no sooner seated then it became clear to me from the sounds of confusion at the front of the bus that the driver had no clue where the train station was in Guelph.   The woman who had led our sad parade was trying to help him program his GPS.  Fortunately, a woman in one of the front seats said that she was from Guelph and would guide him in, which she did.  By the time we arrived, Brian and Cathy had been waiting for a couple of hours.  I will never subject them to such an ill- conceived trip again.  They spent hours driving and waiting for me this time.

The last days in Walkerton were eventful.  Not only did I see the whole gang again but also a ‘coydog’ invaded the barn.   Cathy was almost attacked by it.  As she opened the door one morning to feed the pigs, it ran past her and out.  I was first aware of it when I opened the screen door to see her entering the garage on the ATV looking pop-eyed and disheveled.  She phoned Dana who arrived soon after with the baby and a big gun.  She left Alex with us and went out on the ATV to look for the creature.  She didn’t see it, so we kept an uneasy eye out for it all the rest of that day and night.  The next day she got a shot at it but missed and it ran across the field.  It’s not been seen since. 

Another flight was delayed on my way home as West Jet waited for customers to arrive, so more Van de Vyveres had to wait.  They’re not famous for being in good moods at such times, but they were all admirably understanding this trip.  I hope I don’t ask so much of them ever again.  This time it was Bert, Rob and Joanna who met me in Kelowna.  I said goodbye to Rob and Joanna because they were returning to Dubai the next day.  I drove home to Vernon at around midnight local time, around 3:00am Walkerton time, took a Gravol and slept for eight hours.  I’m back to new friends, biking and working in the garden.  Life goes on.

Brian, David and Mark tasting the soju I brought from Korea for Brian.  They liked the soju but not the dried squid that is on the plate in front of Brian.

With Miche alongside the Keewatin

With Mela outside the National Gallery

Joe Fafard's horses that are running through tufts of prairie grass and Russian Sage beside the National Gallery and along Sussex Street.

On the shores of Mud Lake with Mela and Don's lab. Wizard and Blake and Margaux's min pin Earnest

Megan and Geoff Baughan enjoying some rare beef

With some of the Wild Women of Wakefield at Paul's place

Don and Mela and Caroline and Albert at Gabe's restaurant in Ottawa



Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Mid Summer



It’s August 6, the heart of the summer holidays.  I had a good long chat with Jay this morning on Skype.  I heard about their trip to Jeju Island.  Jay was so excited about the wonderful pension they had by the ocean that he not only phoned me on the first morning but also texted a few people.  One of them was his good friend Frank who lives in Seoul.  Jay’s enthusiasm was so contagious that Frank got on a plane and joined them the next day.  Aside from a few line-up-and-look-at-the-site-with-a-lot-of-other-people experiences, it sounds as if they had a very good time.  As we talked, Jay had a towel in one hand and a cold drink in the other and was alternately wiping his dripping head or taking a drink.   Mom who follows the weather in Thunder Bay, Vernon and Seoul every day had told me Seoul had been hot lately.  Looking at Jay confirmed it.  He and May have bought a free-standing air conditioner which will sit in the living room and have a satellite unit in their bedroom.  It should be delivered tomorrow.  We talked a bit about what it takes to separate us from our savings.  It reminded me of the fable about the competition between the north wind and the sun to see who could make the traveler remove his cape.  The sun was the winner in the fable and it has proven to be so with us too.  Jay has parted with quite a few won in order to escape the heat, and I am presently sitting at my desk in air-conditioned comfort for the first time in two summers.  I like to experience the heat when we finally get it, and not having to pay Fortis for it is a bonus, but enough’s enough.  It’s been hot here too lately and last night it did not cool down as it usually does.

 The electricity has just gone off.  I had seen the trees in the back yard blowing in the wind and noticed that it was getting dark as I typed.  Suddenly there was a crack of thunder, the lights went out and I am now in the dark and it’s only 5:45pm.  It’s raining a bit but I wish it would pour.  If we’re without electricity, nature might as well at least take over the watering that I was going to do later. 

The electricity didn’t come on again until almost 10:00pm.  After sitting in a quandary for a while with my head racing around all the things I should but couldn’t do, I calmed down, made a salad with most of the vegetables left in the fridge plus some crushed tacos and cheese and ate.  A full stomach calms the mind.  I found candles, set them up in the sunroom because it was quite dark by then and stretched out on the futon to finish Anna Karenina, which I did.  The new translation by Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky is very well done.  The first time I read the book, I was too young to really appreciate either the style or the content, but the combination of my age and an excellent translation made reading it a pleasure this time.  It’s long but Tolstoy’s writing is crystal clear.  He can describe physical, mental, emotional and spiritual states with intensity.  The chapters are short and each one grips you as you read it and encourages you to go on to the next.  I think that my background in the United Church of Canada, listening to the impassioned and eloquent sermons of the Rev. Stanley MacLeod prepared me for some of the long passages of inner turmoil.  

Now I’m looking forward to a trip back east to Ontario and Quebec as opposed to forward east to Korea.   Tomorrow at this time I will be at Bert and Peggy’s having dinner with the gang at their place, Tracey and her kids, Caroline and hers and Rob and Joanna.  My plane leaves at 8:30pm, and I arrive in London at 6:30 am local time.  Cathy will pick me up around 9:30 and the holiday begins.   


Wild flowers in a meadow on the way to Twin Lakes in the Monashees

Looking down on Twin Lakes where we had lunch on the Sunday hike.  I jumped into the nearest of the twins.  It was cold, but I've been in Lake Superior when it was colder.

The view from the top of the hill we climbed after lunch

The members of the VOC picking their way down a talus slope heading back

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Summertime



It’s summer.  I feel like a hen on the ‘Boneless Chicken Ranch’.  The little structure I had in my life has been removed.  Now I must make my own strings and pull them if I’m going to get up in the morning.  This is not a complaint, merely an observation.  In fact it’s a luxury being able to lie in bed and toy with the idea of never getting up.  But it’s perverse the way the mind works against the body’s best interests.  I have a walk in the neighborhood that I have taken many times and love.  I go quickly up 39th Ave. to the top and down around along a country road where the crowing of roosters reminds me of Mexico.  I do stretches in the shade of a tree and amble back down 30th Ave. looking at gardens.  Today when I got home from that walk, I drove to Bella Vista Orchard and bought some perfectly ripe peaches.  I ate one with granola for breakfast.  It was so luscious it almost burst of its own volition out of its thin peachy skin.  And yet when I wakened at about seven, I didn’t leap up eager to go.  My mind pushed hard against all the pleasant memories of that walk and tried to convince me to roll over, curl up in a new position and sleep.  It almost succeeded. 

Jessica, my new Korean friend, and I have decided not to meet again until September.  My student at Immigrant Services is going to continue to work towards a separation from her husband.  Her daughter came with her to class yesterday. I introduced them to the social worker who will help with the divorce proceedings by putting her in touch with lawyers, etc.  We decided not to have any more English classes until September.  So I’m a bike, a hike and 7 sleeps away from summer holidays in the east.  Life’s mostly a holiday now, so I should probably say, ‘changing the venue of the summer holidays.’ 

I’m looking forward to hearing about Jay’s holiday on Jeju Island.  He phoned from there one glorious morning, but I wasn’t in to hear the details.  Next week at this time I’ll be driving to Kelowna to spend the afternoon and have dinner with Bert and Peg and Rob and Joanna.  Bert will drive me to the airport, and I’ll catch the 8:30pm flight to Calgary.
I bought the ticket with Air Miles.  It’s a red-eye, arriving in London, Ontario at about 6:30am, 3:30am Vernon time.  That’s 7:30pm Incheon time. 


View from the top of Dewdrop Mountain, looking back at Kamloops and the still swollen Thompson River.  The haze is from fires in the Kelowna area, not Russia and Colorado this time.


Heading back down

A Mariposa Lily, the first I've seen and a rather rare flower in this area.
   

Sunday, July 22, 2012

The neighbourhood has been quiet this week, so I still haven't turned on the air conditioner.  The days have been hot but the nights are cool.  We had a furious wind and thunder storm on Friday night.  I had biked with a new group of woman in the morning; it was perfect because it was cloudy and the ride wasn't really long.  Even though I wasn't too tired when I got home, I was happy that the rain came.  It saved me from having to water or do any other gardening.  Today I went on a wonderful long hike and again returned just before the rain and thunder came.  We had a bit of rain earlier, and I can hear the thunder rumbling in again now.  Good, I can go and read.  I have almost finished the new translation of Anna Karenina.  I'm enjoying it very much.  I've gone back to studying a bit of Spanish, in a very lazy way.  I have some great cds that I listen to as I kick back in the easy chair with a cool pack on my shoulder after hiking, biking or working in the garden.  It's so easy compared to Korean that it seems almost as if I'm fluent, which I'm not.  It's wonderful what relativity can do.

Some of the Thursday bike group at Kekuli Bay on Lake Kalamalka

The Monashee Mountains from the lunch spot on the Sunday hike up Yeoward Mountain

Some of the many anemones in the meadows on the Yeoward hike



The same anemones, but more mature ones in a more open meadow.  A funny woman on the hike told me that they call these old ones hippies on sticks.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

July 17, 2012


Nothing much has happened to me this week, but there’s always the weather, the topic Canadians can count on to fill the void in a conversation or blog.  It’s hot in Vernon and has been for about a week now.  I haven’t started the air conditioning yet.  I think I’m turning this fact into a virtue.  I’d better be careful about that.  It’s much easier to indulge your whims when you’re alone, and I’m beginning to fear that a whim can soon become an obsession.  That way lies bag ladydom for me.  I can easily concoct a saving-the- environment justification for this particular mania; in fact I have done.  But the truth is rooted in my character.  I’m not quick to part with a nickel. I could end up wearing unforgivably old clothes and, what’s even more sobering, being found dead in my bedroom, having succumbed to heat prostration in a place with a working but unused air conditioner.  The one thing that might save me from the latter fate is the neighborhood I live in.  After spending almost 40 years on the shore of the Gatineau River where the only human sounds we heard were the babbling voices of groups of bikers riding along the road across the river on their way from Gatineau to Wakefield, I now find myself in the East Hill area of Vernon.  I have a mixed bunch of neighbors, most of whom are friendly, helpful and generally keep to themselves.  I enjoy talking with them when I’m working in the front garden or shoveling.  Aside from the odd barking dog there’s not much noise.  I’m used to the sounds of traffic on 32nd Ave., a big truck or emergency vehicle sometimes offends the ear, but the regular pattern becomes almost like water running in the background.  And all’s quiet at night, except for one family that lives behind and one house over from me.  The woman of the house can’t seem to open her mouth without emitting a harsh sound, and the words she uses would be beeped out on public media.  The men in the place have more pleasant voices, except when they’re drunk, which they often are in the summer.  Then, somewhere between midnight and 2:00am, they match her, curse for curse and decibel for decibel.  I’ve spent two nights recently as an unwilling eavesdropper on their drunken domestic exchanges of expletives.  It just might drive me to closing the windows and turning on the air conditioning.  I may ultimately thank them for saving me from myself.

My student at Immigrant Services emailed me on Sunday night to say that she wouldn’t be able to come to class on Monday.  Part of that class was supposed to be her first interview with a worker about her abusive situation at home.  I hope she will be able to come next week.


Monday, July 9, 2012

Living alone





Since July 1, I’ve seen a full moon and impressive fireworks, gone on 3 hikes and 1 bike ride, attended a birthday barbecue, organized my finances with Dave Acheson, started the path at the side of the house, had Bert and Peggy for dinner and ngiven 2 classes at Immigrant Services.  When you put 8 days into one sentence, it sounds as if your life is a whirl.  But it’s not.  It is at least becoming a life and not a bad one.  I symbolically acknowledged this by finally getting rid of all the cardboard boxes I’d saved from the move in anticipation of an immanent return.  They were stacked in the 1/3 garage that now has the sign ‘Jim’s Eccentricity’ on its door.  I pulled them out, cut them up and used them to make the path at the side of the house.  With paving stones on top and bark all around and between, they don’t look bad.  Mo, her big garbage cans and her SUV for carrying the bark made the project possible.

I didn’t choose to live alone, but now that I am in that situation I’m discovering there are positive aspects to it.  Today in my class at Immigrant Services I was brought up sharply against the worst of the alternative.  After one hour of working on my student’s difficulties with verb tenses and the formation of questions, we took a break.  We began by going to the washroom, and, as I was drying my hands, I noticed that she was leafing through the brochures that are set up in a rack near the sink.  She took one on abuse, folded it and put it in a pocket.  As I made our tea, my mind was on what I should do.  The part of me that likes the clarity and objectivity of teaching language urged ignoring it, but something made me think that I was there for more than that.  If I didn’t try to talk with her about possible problems no body else would know about them to ask her.  So when we got back to our desk I took a few sips of tea and got up the nerve to tell her that I had seen her take a brochure on abuse.  What followed was an hour of talking, some crying and a decision on her part to get professional help.  She is married to a very angry man.  She’s managed it for many years, but it’s hard for me to imagine how.  I was able to talk to one of the social workers at Immigrant Services and set up meetings for the two of them.  The social worker is a lovely woman.  She will assess the situation and decide what additional help is needed.  All of this will be done during the hours when we are supposed to be studying English because her husband would be furious if he suspected anything.  Her daughter will be in town for the second meeting, and I’m sure she will help her mom explain the situation.  Both the daughters have suggested she should do something for years, but she had no idea how to start.  It’s not going to be easy. 

Life is much more complex than verb tenses, unless your talking about Korean verb tenses




The view from one of the lookouts on Sunday's hike up Estekwalan Mountain.

Another view from Estekwalan, showing the haze that the weather reporters say is caused by smoke from the fires in Colorado blowing north and west ?

Saturday, June 30, 2012

A Rant and Roses



Happy Canada Day!

I’m finally taking a stand against the irritating overuse of the word ‘icon’ and all its derivatives with the exception of ‘iconoclast’.  I began to be annoyed by its use months ago when I unpacked the first of many Emails that I have since received.  The confidently pious wording assumed that it was being read by a person whose outrage would equal that of the sender.  It informed me that the ‘iconic’ words, “God keep our land” in the Canadian National Anthem were under threat of being replaced.  I should join the 85% of Canadians who were against this.  Like so many of the Emails that either drip saccharin sentiment or assume right thinking, it ended with a near threat that if I didn’t share its views and forward it to every person I could think of I would suffer.  I deleted it and didn’t think about it again until I got another.  I snapped.  Iconic!  I spent my whole youth singing “We stand on guard for thee”, a few too many repetitions perhaps, but at least there was never any appeal to a deity to save the land. Or was I wrong?  I was driven to Google it.  Yes!  God only entered the scene in 1968 when the Pearson Government made “O Canada” the official national anthem, after changing a few words on the advice of a committee.  So that committee created an ‘icon’.  I didn’t like the addition of god in 1968 and I still don’t.  It seemed like a thoughtless copying of the U.S. anthem.  I also don’t like prayer circles before athletic events, but I digress.  I know that the word ‘icon’ is used all the time now in its computer context, but it’s being thrown around in association with moustaches and words that were added to anthems by committees that were struck in my lifetime irks me.  That’s my rant for the week, but I know that the word ‘icon’ will continue to jump out at me and give me a little frisson of fury every time it does.  When Jim was around, he got riled up enough for both of us.  As the years went by, I sometimes thought to myself that I had been very attracted to an angry young man but I wasn’t so sure if an angry old man would have the same appeal.  But now that I’m alone, I find I can’t live without a bit of irritation, a bit of the Bill Needles.  I have to get riled on my own.  It’s invigorating, up to a point. 

The rest of this blog will be roses because I did very little other than extreme gardening this week.  My many absences combined with the amount of rain we’ve had this spring turned the yard into a weed bed.  It’s good Jay gave me the hand and lower-arm- strengthening thing for my birthday because I’ve been using it and  I’ve needed every bit of muscle I have in that area to pull out the thousands of weeds.  I now have a plan to cover the pathways and bare spots that I’ve cleared with newspaper and then mulch so that I never have to do this again.  The idea is similar to the lasagna garden that Caroline made with such success.  I hope it works. 

When I’m sick of weeding, I stand up, stretch and look at the roses.