Christmas 2016

I'm sitting at the dining room table watching flakes of snow slant past the red tree, the bird feeder, the plum tree and the Brandon cedars.  Gradually they gather in all the small crotches. It's a white and peaceful sight.  I feel quietly happy after celebrating a family Christmas yesterday with Jay, May and the girls.  I went there around 9. May put on "Frozen," the movie we watched last Christmas morning when we all lived together.  I liked the opening music and some of the scenes I saw, but as I was making breakfast, I missed most of it.  This year Jay and May made breakfast and I watched the whole thing.  It's a touching, funny cartoon about two sisters, strange powers and true love.  The breakfast was delicious; Jay's baked bacon was even better than mom's used to be.  Then we opened gifts in order according to who won the up/down show of hands and/or paper, sissors, rock game.  That was a laugh.  I got the promised iPhone to replace Jay the thumb; now I have to get a plan and learn how to use it.  Either Jay or May will help me with that next week.  Next we watched "Home Alone 2," which I had never seen before.  Then I went home alone to prepare for dinner.  As I didn't have much work left to do, I went for a walk in Polson Park, inspired by the second movie, to see the pigeons.  As always the pool in the park was noisy with ducks and the sidewalk around it was a waddling carpet of ducks and pecking pigeons.  The kids helped with final preparations for dinner, and we sat around after in the living room talking and looking at the lights on the tree and the fire in the fireplace.  It was a peaceful, quiet moment in a year that has had its successes and difficulties, to paraphrase Walter Cronkite, "a year like all years, and we were there," as we will be in 2017, if the good lord's willing and the creek don't rise.  

Today began with a phone call from Lisa Van de Vyvere informing me of her mother Peg's death.  While we were happy in each other's company yesterday, Bert's branch of the family was gathered sadly together for Peg's last moments.  She died just after noon.  Last Sunday, I visited Bert and Peg for the first time since before I went to Vietnam.  I had wanted to see their new home and take them Mark's honey that Cathy had sent via me as well as some Christmas things for them from us.  I was shocked by their appearance.  They were both incredibly thin and weak looking.  Peg was coughing terribly and not talking much.  Bert also seemed distracted.  I stayed over an hour, and we talked quite a bit although I did most of it.  I left feeling upset and not knowing what I would say to Jean, Peg's mom, when I phoned her the next day.  As it turned out I didn't have to; she phoned me to tell me that about an hour after I left, Bert fell, Peg called the ambulance and the first responders took them both to the hospital.  Bert is still there.  Peg had been moved to a care facility but was returned to the hospital on Christmas Eve.  She died there on Christmas Day.  Her funeral will probably be on Friday; Jay and I will go.

The snow is still falling.  It looks as if it might be shovel ready by the time I get home from dinner at Miriam and Bill's tonight.  Jay has done most to the shovelling so far, but he'll be working tomorrow.  He even worked a bit today.  There has been a lot of winter flooding in Vernon.  

Boxing Day 2016

The girls of Christmas

The parents 

COLD

When I was in Vietnam I longed to be cold.  Now I am.  Yesterday, for the first time since I moved to Vernon, I was so cold cross country skiing that after about an hour I decided it wasn't worth going on. Luckily I turned around when I did because by the time I got back to the lodge I was frozen.  Mo and John carried on.  John tried to convince me later that it had got better after I turned around, but when I saw that Mo's middle layer was white with frost I had trouble believing him.  It was about -17c, which I would have thought was fine when I was in my prime, but I don't now.  CBC has been having one of its Politically Correct debates lately about what term should be used to refer to people of a certain age.  YUCK!  I'll settle for past my prime or anything else for that matter.  I'm certainly not middle aged.  Life expectancy is greater than it was but even now nobody lives to 140.

At least it's sunny today and there's enough puffy snow resting on the dark branches of the trees to soften the view out the window.  The birds must be balled up somewhere trying to escape the cold because they aren't flitting around the feeder as they usually do at this time of the afternoon.  Walking to Tai Chi will be the extent of my outdoor activity for today.  

It's no longer difficult to imagine that Christmas is nigh.  

The eleves are making Christmas cookies

The parents are kicking back

Sweet Dreams

The Mekong Delta

We flew from Hue to Ho Chi Minh City and from there were driven to My Tho where we boarded the boat that would take us around the Mekong Delta.  Nobody liked the boat as well as the junk and the food was neither as delicious nor as decorative.  The rooms were allotted by lottery as they had been before.  Five couples and I got the less desirable rooms, which didn't really bother me because as I was alone in mine the fact that it was small was no problem.  But on the first night one couple and I discovered another problem.  Our rooms were over the generator and it was noisier than usual.  As they could not repair it and as it had to run all night in order for the air conditioning to work,  we were hooped.  That is until Anita and I asked if we could sleep outside on the top deck.  They don't like to do this but couldn't refuse, so we three slept on comfortable deck chairs that the crew set up and hung mosquito netting over.  It was lovely.  In spite of the heat and humidity, there was a breeze at night on the deck and the moon and stars were brilliant. The Mekong is a wide, steady flowing river; it's brownish with silt and everywhere dotted with large clumps of water hyacinth.  The word fecund comes to mind as you float past and bike through areas lush with rice, fruit, fish and vegetables you have no words to name.  I had never tasted dragon fruit until this trip when I ate both white and red.  We had the latter one day while biking; it was cut from the cactus and we ate it still warm from the heat of the day, dripping and delicious. It was on this same ride that I almost gagged on durian.  I had heard about this fruit and seen signs in the airport in Hong Kong which listed it among the things that could not be brought on the airplane.  We passed an area where many were growing.  Huang went up to a farmer and asked if we could try some.  He found a big bumpy ripe one and happily cut it up for us.  In retrospect, I think that what put the smile on his face was his anticipation of exactly what happened.  I pride myself on being able to eat anything and was buoyed by the recent experience with dragon fruit, but here I had to put my mouth where my mouth was.  I popped in a big piece. IT WAS AWFUL IN EVERY WAY: SMELL, TASTE, TEXTURE.  I didn't spit it out but my writhing and gagging broadened the farmer's grin.  If that hasn't taught me to keep my mouth shut, nothing will.  

My only real incident of the whole trip occurred on the Mekong.  We were biking through rice fields and fruit trees on a narrow cement path just wide enough for two bikes to pass each other.  It had probably been used for decades.  The Vietnamese we encountered seemed absolutely at home on it, but I was a bit wary of some parts that had abrupt edges.  We were almost back to where we would meet the tender to take us to the boat for lunch when as I rode over a low bridge, I saw ahead a place where a bit of concrete had dropped below level.  My front tire hit it, I rose up and my helmet hit a tree branch that knocked me sideways into the muddy Makong.  I went right under, gulped in some water and rose up quickly, feeling fine until my feet started to sink into the silt.  But by then Hoang had hold of my hands and was pulling me out.  I was only worried about the fact that one of my shoes, the only ones I could wear in the heat of the south, was sucked off my foot.  But Hoang pulled it out and all seemed well.  Until I remembered that I was wearing a bum bag, which had been submerged with me. I zipped it open to see how my passport and iPhone were.  The former was wet and a bit curled up but  fine.  The latter was blank.  I felt a bit shaken but got back on the bike and we rode to the boat.  A couple of the crew said I should let them bury 'Jay the thumb' in rice to see if that would dry it out.  Unfortunately it did not rise from the dead.  I kept it.  I don't know why.  Jay thought it fitting that the thumb went down in the Makong and so do I. It took most of my pictures with it, all the ones I hadn't transferred to this iPad.  We exchanged email addresses as we parted and the other people on the tour said they would send me some of theirs.  Anita's husband Steve had been riding behind me wearing a camera on his chest; he caught my fall and said that if he can edit it he will send me that section of what he shot that day.  I opted not to go on the final ride of the tour and floated with the boat to the point where we picked up the others.  I was in the shade and there was a breeze, so I really relaxed and let the life on and along the Mekong entertain me.  Then I began to do some exercises.  The captain heard me and came up to warn me to sit down while we went under a bridge.  After my kayaking experience on Halong Bay, I thought he was exaggerating, but the closer we got the lower it looked and I bent my head down as we went under. 

 The Mekong is a busy river. People live on it, fish in it, transport everything from sand to eucalyptus branches to all kinds of fruit and vegetables on it.  Just before leaving the boat to go to a hotel in Ho Chi Minh City, we took a tender through a big floating fruit and vegetable, market.  Each boat sells one item and lets you know what that is by suspending an example from a pole on its bow.  The boats are long and low.  You could see through the windows in the sides of them that the front section was crammed full of whatever they were selling and the back window was for the part where the family lived.  

We only stopped at a pineapple boat where we ate pineapple cut and quartered in a unique Vietnamese way and served on a stick, simple and delicious.  That was our last taste not of delicious but certainly of simple foods.  

We were transferred to a The Grand Hotel, Saigon, a big, generic, extravagant place that could have been anywhere in the world, except that from the bar on the roof you got a wonderful view of Ho Chi Minh City.  I was amazed by the breakfast on the first morning: cheeses of the world, very good Italian and German cold meats, pho, rice dishes, roasts of pork, beef and chicken to slice, omelettes to order, breads, pancakes, cakes, exotic fruits, yogurts and cereals and more.  I ate too much, and the next two mornings could not and didn't even want to repeat the performance. 

We went on a bus tour of the city to see the main sites, impressive old pagodas and some buildings that remain from the period of French colonization.  Huang, who was usually measured in his comments about the Chinese, Japanese, French and Americans, couldn't resist saying that the French stripped Vietnam of everything they could and left little behind but an opera house, post office and cathedral. I noticed that they had also left the douche, great consolation. There was one in every toilet I used in Vietnam, even in relatively remote places. I certainly hadn't seen any in China where many of the toilets were squatters that made me pleased I'd taken Tai Chi and could do 'donus.'  Happily for the Chinese, they were never civilized by the French. 

We spent quite a bit of time in the Reunification Museum, which presents the War Against the Americans from a Vietnamese perspective, a legitimate one, I think.  There were a few exhibits showing how American soldiers and their families suffered during and have suffered since the war, but it was mostly a very moving presentation of a people fighting for freedom and family life in their own land against a country whose politicians were driven by an idea and saw themselves as the best defenders of the world against Communism.  The devastation of the land and the people as a result of 'agent orange' was unconscionable. The land and climate of Vietnam are so conducive to growth that certainly the Mekong seems to have returned to being a very productive area, but the people who were deformed as a result and those who will continue to be for an unknowable number of generations into the future cannot be ignored.    

Some of us ended our tour with a rush hour bicycle rickshaw ride around central Ho Chi Minh City.  My driver was an old guy, undoubtedly younger than I, who mumbled and jockeyed his way through masses of motorcycles, buses and cars.  He did get angry at times, which puts the lie to what I said earlier about the absence of road rage in Vietnam, but he seemed to be the exception because the other rickshaw guys got a big laugh out of him.  We all went for a farewell dinner. Throughout the trip, I, as the oldest and only single person, was always chosen to present the envelope with our tips and make a short thank you speech to the crew.  This night a very funny German man did this for Christoph and I thanked Huang.  This wasn't difficult because he had been a very good guide.  

I spent my last day alone in Ho Chi Minh City on a tour to the Cu Chi Tunnels, about 60 km from HCMC. They have about 250km of tunnels on three levels at this site.  They played an important role in the resistance to the Americans.  The people who constructed, lived in and worked in them were villagers, men and women, fishers and farmers.  They made some devilish traps and weapons to slow down the American advance, using mostly captured American materiel. The ingenuity is inspiring.  I went on the shortest walk down one of the tunnels and was very happy to get out.  Women, from the Trung sisters who fought and defeated the Chinese around 41AD to the present members of two specifically women's unions, have always been publicly recognized as contributing to Vietnamese history.  On the drive home we stopped at a place where people who are handicapped as a result of the war make and sell crafts.  I bought one small tray.  Aside from little gifts for Jay, May and the girls, this was all I could carry in my carry-on luggage, which was all I had brought on this trip.  

My feelings about the tour were and remain complex, but as with so much in life the source of this is more within myself than anything exterior.  I don't know if I'd go as far as to say that travel is "a fool's paradise," but it's true that you never get away from yourself.  The old, "Wherever you go, there you are."  And I like to be with people I know.   Of course, moving to Vernon forced me to get to know new people for the first time in a long while; I did and now am happy here, but on a two week tour you can't do this and it's hard as a single person to work your way in among couples.  And even when Jim and I travelled, we usually went from one friend or family member to another or stayed in one place long enough to make at least an effort to learn the language and get to really know some of the people.  Also, I like to find my own way around most of the time.  As time passes, I find my memories of this trip are getting fonder and fonder, I really liked Guilin and I'm happy that I finally actually saw Vietnam.  I learned a lot, but I still would think twice before signing up again to go on a tour alone. 

Ho Chi Minh City as seen from the bar of the Grand Hotel

The newest and tallest building in HCMC

Another view of HCMC from the bar

The Trung sisters defeating the Chinese.  This shot was not taken from the bar on the Grand Hotel

Beautiful Halong Bay

Inselhuepfen/ Islandhopping

I got off the mororcycle in front of a hotel that was right in the heart of the high end tourist area of Hanoi, practically on the lake.  And so began the tour.  We gathered in the bar to meet each other and our two guides, Huang and Christoph.  I discovered that I was the only single member of the group. They were 9 couples: 4 from Germany, 2 from England, 1from Brazil, 1 from New Zealand and 1from Italy but German speaking.  I could also tell at a glance that I was the oldest; I discovered as the tour continued that they ranged in age from about 45 to 60.  So I became a bit of a mascot for the team.  The guides were very solicitous and the couples always made room for me.  But I had to be careful not to impose my presence on any one couple too much.  It worked out, but I will think twice before travelling alone again, especially on a tour.  I've had reservations about tours since I worked for Brewsters at the Chateau Lake Louise.  Being young and judgemental, I thought the people who came off the tour buses and directly to the Brewster desk to book their tour to Lake Louise, not realizing that it was a short walk across the lobby from them, were brain dead.  The fact of being guided dulled my wits too.  I'm a ready follower.  I'm most alert when I'm alone and have to be. Even at that I don't know where I am half the time, but I have some of my best times then because I have to pay attention, and that's usually when I discover things and eventually find out where I am.  At least Houang did not carry a flag or have us all wear the same coloured cap.  From the beginning he brought us together by calling, "My Family" in a booming voice.   That night we followed him to the Water Puppet Show, where puppets are moved around, under and over water, acting out traditional scenes originally created by rice farmers for their own entertainment.  Now the shows are quite elaborate and accompanied by very skilled musicians playing traditional Vietmanese music.  After that we walked together to dinner at a restaurant by the lake.  A good beginning.

The next 4 days and nights were spent on a junk in Halong Bay.  It was wonderful.  I discovered that the landscape there is similar to that in Guilin, carst topography.  The bay is a maze of pointy limestone islands.  Huang said that nobody could count them but the Vietnamese say there are 1,969 because Uncle Ho died in 1969.  He told us many stories, some of which were true but all of which were entertaining, except when he sometimes got carried away on long bus rides and slipped into a rant.  But he was a humane, well informed and entertaining guide who conveyed to me a sense of the strong family feeling of most Vietnamese and their determination to live in peace and remain finally free of foreign domination. 

The junk was an old one that had been fixed up just enough to be comfortable.  The bedrooms were air conditioned but the rest of the boat was not.  I was still able to take the heat a bit and didn't want to sleep in the artificial air conditioning, but the windows in my room were not made to be left open so I had to rig up a system of knee high nylons attached to the window latches and chairs so that I could have a fresh breeze off the bay at night.  The crew was all young men and women, even the cook was only in his 40s.  His food was not only delicious but also artistically presented.  On two of the mornings different young men dressed in loose fitting white shirts and pants led us in a session of Tai Chi on the deck before breakfast.  I really liked that; it confirmed my sometimes wavering commitment to continue with the classes in Vernon.  The bike rides around different islands were not too difficult, I only had to walk up 3 hills pushing my bike, and I was not alone.  We rode through rice fields where water buffalo were tethered and family grave sites were placed, seemingly at random.  Only once did we all have to push our bikes over an area of stones that had rolled down to the path from a site where a big new highway was being constructed.  We kayaked and swam on two of the days. I was the lucky loner who got to be in the bow of the guide's kayak.  Halong Bay is such a maze that you really need a guide.  Sometimes he would encourage me to paddle as hard as possible so we could pull ahead of the rest, aiming at a spot of light in the rock that only he knew would be a tunnel big enough to go through.  Just before we entered, I would realize that we probably could make it, and then we'd break through to the other side, turn hard left and try to conceal ourselves before the others appeared.  That was fun.  We had a delicious shore lunch one day with fish and large shrimp, but the highlights were fries cooked in a big wok over an open fire and peanuts roasted in the same wok but without as much oil. Another highlight of the time in Halong Bay was the day on Cat Ba Island.  We biked to a village of the Viet Hai minority people.  Houang introduced us to a man and his wife who had both been part of the resistance during the war against the Americans. We left our bikes at their place and climbed up to the highest point on the island where you get a wonderful view of the bay and then returned to have lunch at their place and bike back to the dock where we took the tender back to the junk. 

Our junk in Halong Bay

The table at one of our dinners on the junk

Boats that people live on in Halong Bay

A picture that one of the German women took of me in my exhaust mask

We left the junk to take a bus to the airport near Haiphong and then flew to Da Nang where a shuttle drove us to a hotel/resort in Hoi An.  According to Huang, North Vietnam is the centre of politics for the country, the central part is religion and culture and the south is the heart of commerce and agriculture. The countryside around Hoi An is beautiful and easy to bike through.  We passed immaculately tended gardens and stopped at one for lunch.  The owner was a chef who took us on a tour of his organically grown vegetables, herbs, cumquats and passion fruits.  The latter were a highlight of my trip.  I first tasted them in Guilin and either drank or ate them whenever possible after that.  Later he showed us how to make some dishes which we later ate.  Hoi An itself has been recognized by UNESCO.  It's a fascinating old town with a fairly large, distinctly Chinese section separated by an old covered bridge from a Japanese neighbourhood. The huge open market is wonderful to walk through in the early morning. From Hoi An, we took a bus back through Da Nang, stopping to walk the long beach where the Americans first landed and to climb around the Cloud Pass which used to mark the border between North and South Vietnam.  We spent the next two days in Hue visiting pagodas, which Huang  told us have seven stories and house many spirits, and the citadel of the Nguyễn Dynasty.  It was in Hue in 1963 that a Buddhist monk burned himself as a protest against the S. Vietnamese Diem government's treatment of Buddhists.  Diem, his brother and brother's wife were practicing Catholics.  Consequently, it was the place where Buddhists took there revenge in 1968, killing many Catholics after the Viet Cong had pushed south and before the South could push back.  I could tell by the way Huang told this story that it was a very dark moment in the history of Vietnam.  We had a really good bike ride around Hue one day, returning in rush hour to ride our bikes through the crush of motorcycles.  I made sure that I stuck to Huang like Velcro for that part of the trip.  

Hanoi

I have been interested in South East Asia since my mother introduced me to the books of Pearl S. Buck and Han Suyin when I was in about grade 7 or 8.  I was also fascinated when I was young by the boxes at the door of Wesley United Church in Thunder Bay which had signs on them saying, 'If your nylons run, let them run to Korea.' They said that the poor Koreans after the war could not afford glasses and that these old nylons could be turned into glasses.  This seemed odd to me, but to this day I have never looked into the matter.  Before going to China this time, I read two memoirs, The Cowshed and A Leaf in the Bitter Wind, written by people who lived through the Great Leap Forward and the Cultural Revolution. They were well written and gave me at least a sense of what life was like in those horrible times.  I had a more real connection to Vietman.  I was a junior counsellor at Sherwood Forest Girls' Camp in Deer Lake, Minnesota during the summers when I was in grades 12 and 13. For reasons I won't go into, the very mention of that camp makes some members of the VdeV family collapse in tears of laughter.  But for me it was an introduction into the Vietnam War or, as the Vietnamese now refer to it, the war against the United States.  A few of the senior counsellors had boyfriends who had enrolled in university specifically to avoid the draft and the second year, one of them had married her boyfriend mainly to further decrease his chances of being drafted.  The news we listened to all through the late 60s and early 70s was of that war and the protests against it in the States.  Then in 1975 I taught ESL to a group of young Vietmanese men who had climbed the wall of the US Embassy on the day the Americans pulled out of Saigon and been airlifted off the embassy roof.  Then I saw so many movies about the Vietnam War and read Tim O'Brien's, The Things They Carried, etc.etc. So I decided to celebrate my 70th year by going to China and Vietnam.  I couldn't believe I was actually going to do it until I got on the plane for Guilin.  I can't say I was excited.  I felt almost more resigned.  But the week in Guilin had gone well.

When I got off the plane in Hanoi I was stunned.  I had thought Guilin was hot and humid.  Jay could not believe that I was not prepared for such heat.  Hadn't he told me the Philippines were unliveable?  Hadn't I looked at the location of Vietnam on a map?  Yes, but... On a positive note, the driver from the Hanoi Culture Hostel finally raised his hastily written sign with what looked a bit like my last name on it and I pulled my bag over to where he was.  For a brief moment I had cursed the fact that I still didn't have a phone plan for Jay the Thumb, the iPhone 4S that Jay gave me years ago.  Where was the ride I had organized?  How was I going to contact the hostel?  He had been on his cell and not realized that the passengers were already through the gates.  We drove to the hostel through a sea of motorcycles such as I've never seen before but was going to see all over Vietnam.   

The Hanoi Culture Hostel, like all the hostels I've stayed at in Asia, is located in the central hub of the city, not the really tonie tourist section where the high end hotels are but close to it and most of the parks and sites that are touristy.  This one was at the intersection of aluminium street ( there's a lot of aluminium in Vietman and it is pounded into as many useful items as you can imagine) and exotic spices and herbal medicines avenue.  At least that's how I identified it in the maze of narrow motorcycle mad streets in Hanoi.  I get lost easily, but I have never been so confused as I was there.  I made it to the night market but panicked getting back to the hostel and feared I might end up walking all night, which was stupid because the two were near each other, but as is always the case, I took the right route last.  The next day I made it easily to the lake in the centre of the old part of Hanoi and walked happily around it.  A girl, Kee, approached me to ask if I would talk to her a bit and help her with English.  I was on my way to the Women's Museum so I asked her if she would like to join me and help me find my way.  We spent the morning there together; she explained a lot to me and I corrected her English. Women are recognized as having contributed a lot to Vietnam's history, not just in the wars against the French and Americans.  Kee's family lives in a village near Hanoi, and she is in university in the city, but her grandparents are what are referred to as tribal people from the north of Vietnam.  When we looked at pictures of women from that area, I commented on the fact that the women's teeth were black.  She said that her grandmothers both had black teeth which they had to colour about once a week and that she thought they looked beautiful that way.  Another of her grandmothers' tricks that she tried to tell me about but that I didn't completely understand was the use of betel leaf and slaked lime.  We parted around noon because she had classes in the afternoon, but we exchanged email addresses and have written each other a bit since.  She can't refer to me without a title; she has chosen grandmother.  This reminds me of May who also has trouble referring to me without something before my name.  I think the culture of both the Philippines and Vietnam are family oriented and it's just natural for them to want to refer to people in an inclusive/family way.  Our guide, Hoang, on the bike and boat tour always referred to us as 'My Family' when he wanted to gather us together.  The day I left the hostel, one of the boys who worked there volunteered to drive me and my luggage to the hotel where the tour was meeting, so I got to drive through Hanoi traffic on a motercycle.  It's not as dangerous as it looks.  Vehicles are practically touching each other and honking but there doesn't seem to be much road rage.  Speeds are not fast and a honk that would get you the finger in Canada is really more of a signal that you're there and consider you have the right of way; most of the time people seem to sense who does and who doesn't have the right of way and as long as you proceed with conviction at an expected speed and in a predictable direction, all goes well.  I wouldn't want to be the driver, but with a boy who knew what he was doing I soon felt at ease and enjoyed moving along looking at the narrow buildings, the action on the sidewalks and the large snarls of electrical wires that hang low from poles that seem too feeble to hold them.

Kee at the Women's Museum

An entertaining group of women near the lake in Hanoi on the day before Hallowe'en. 

Ho Chi Minh airport

I'm finally sitting in the Ho Chi Minh airport, looking out a window at a Qatar jet getting fuelled and a no name jet taxiing out.  I've never seen a big jet with noting at all painted on it. 

I think I'm more excited about going home than I was about leaving on this holiday.  It reminds me of what Jim told me about Danbrook's travels years ago.  Even Jim knew little of what Danbrook had done or where he had gone but he thought it had been an impressive trip.  He said Danbrook probably wouldn't say much about it.  So I was curious to meet Danbrook and hear what he would say.  He didn't really go on abou it much, but over the years I have heard bits about his adventure.  Maybe it will be the same for me. I planned this year as a celebration of my 70th birthday. I had 2 main ideas: buy an inflatable kayak and travel to China and Vietnam.  The first was a success.  I used my kayak a lot this spring and summer and really enjoyed it.  The second is a much more complex matter.  As it draws to a close, I find myself uncharacteristically unable to put it into words.  Maybe I'll be able to babble on about it later.  

This is one moment I'm not ambivalent about.  It's sunrise on the Mekong River, showing on the right the mosquito netting that covered the deck lounge I slept on the night before.  The stars and moon had been brilliant during the night and the heat and humidity of the day had not yet become stifling.  

Guilin, China

It was a long trip from Kelowna to Vancouver to Hong Kong to Guilin, more because of the time spent in the Vancouver and Hong Kong airports than anything else. I always think I can take any wait as long as I am where I have to be, but this trip has called my bluff. Travelling from Guilin, China to Nanning to Guangzhou and on to Hanoi was equally taxing. Planes get you to distant places faster than any other form of transport today, but you pay in money, time and wear and tear on the nerves and shoe leather.  The distances between flight gates and the baggage, passport, visa and body checks are innumerable and nerve wracking. Travelling is a lot like camping; you spend much of the time just figuring out how to survive getting to and being in each new location. It keeps the mind alive, but in every place I get to the thing that fascinates me the most is just wandering around and trying to discover what locals do in the way of work and pleasure. It makes me think about how to get the most out of life at home. 

When I finally arrived in Guilin airport, my luck changed.  An Irish woman, Margarite, was taking the same taxi and staying in the same hostel as I was.  She was spending 3 days in Guilin after studying Chinese in Shanghai for a month.  She's been studying for about one month a year for 3 years, so can at least make her wishes understood in most cases, and she's a woman who knows her mind and speaks it.  I benefitted from this but was happy to have the last 2 days on my own to wander around.  

Our first day trip was to the Longji rice terraces. After about a 2 hour bus ride, we opted to walk unguided among the villages. A young English girl, Kate, who was staying at our hostel came with us.  We took off with an inaccurate tourist map and Kate's phone, equipped with Google Translate, an amazing app that translates text when you hold your smart phone up to it.  Like the translate apps that Jay used to use, it sometimes comes up with laughable stuff, but as we were not asking it to deal with complete sentences, it was quite helpful.  We got lost a bit and Margarite finally got exhausted, but we made it to most of the sites and villages and had some great views of the Dragon's  Backbone terraces that have been producing rice for over a thousand years.  It was not prime season, but the terraces of newly harvested stubble still swirled beneath us in almost endless ripples, dotted with black patches where a small portion of each terrace had been burned to use the ash to enrich the fields.  The parts of China and Vietnam that I saw on this trip were all carefully and fairly organically cultivated and rich with rice, vegetables and fruit.  The fields and hills on the roadside as we drove to Longji were densely planted with what we later discovered were gourds, hanging from low latticed staging that extended in miles of lace-like leaves.  We couldn't see the gourds beneath and only saw for sure that that is what it was when we got to Longji and saw more.

Our next tour was by boat along the Li River.  It was a beautiful ride.  The carst topography was as I had imagined, jagged peaks appearing out of the mist in shapes that each person personifies.  Some of the famously named ones eluded me but were none the less impressive.  Kate, Margarite and I were joined by a big blowhard of a Brit. who went on about his businesses and wealth and was interesting and gave me a few laughs.  I learned an English expression from him, 'Des. Res.'  It means desirable residence.  I told him that a 'Res' in Canada was a completely different thing and that there weren't many desirable ones.  He would point out a house in the distance and describe it as a Des. Res., and we would laugh as we got close and its cracks became clear.  He had the last laugh because he left us in a bar in Yangshou without paying for his beer.  Yangshou is not as it is described in the guides; it's a noisy tourist trap.  Kate went back to Guilin and Margarite and I went for a good meal and then took a taxi to a hostel in the countryside near Yangshou where we had a quiet night's sleep and a good walk through the village and along a stream in the morning.

I enjoyed my last days in Guilin, walking by the river in the early morning and in the evening and to the Solitary Beauty Peak, Elephant's Trunk hill, etc during the days. The Guilin Central Hostel is the best one I've ever stayed in, and I've liked all the hostels so far.  The manager was a wonderful, funny, competent young women who went out of her way to help us and everyone who stayed there.  She spoke English very well which of course eliminated communication barriers, but something about her and all the young people I met on this holiday made me aware of the fact that in spite of our different cultures, we are all just trying to stay alive on the same planet.  She'd be as unused to the cold in Canada and the fact that we stay in our houses in the evenings as I was to the heat and humidity of SW China and the crowds on the streets in the evening listening to music, eating street food and shopping for an endless variety of fruits, fish and stuff, but we certainly share a common humanity.  I'm in favour of a Trans Pacific Partnership. I'd rather deal with the likes of her than Trump any day.   

Early morning swimmers on the riverbank in Guilin, China. The water appears to be polluted, but the locals must build up an immunity because they often whoop as they enter and walk out and dry off briskly. Some of them tie home made buoys to their backs. Most of them do the breast stroke and are older. It reminds me of a picture I saw of Mao swimming across a river on his 70th birthday to show how vigorous he was.  

Workers laying rebar early one morning  in Yangzhou, just up the Li River from Guilin. 

A man chanting and looking out over Guilin from a hill in West Lake Park. It looks very romantic, but like most men in China, he horked up and loudly spat out a few gobs of phlegm as he walked along, with me not far behind him. 

Elephant Trunk Rock in Guilin

On the Li River going to Yangzhou

Livelier News from the Vernon Arts Scene

In the last few weeks I have got to know Misia, a young Polish artist chosen as one of the artists in residence who will visit Vernon throughout the year and stay in the Caetani House, the family home of Sveva Caetani a local artist.  She is working on a project that incorporates aspects of our local environment and life into her art. 

She is a contagiously enthusiastic person who joined the Vernon Outdoors Club in her quest to get to know the area.  I have been on a few hikes and rambles with her and also walked with her a couple of times up to the Black Rock, my favourite neighbourhood site.  I knew she would appreciate not only the view of the three lakes that you get from there but also the ever-changing graffiti on the walls of the abandoned water reservoir. It was while walking around the top of the wall with her that I saw for the first time the words, "July 20th, 1909" written into the concrete at one point.  I had never walked all the way around before.  Many old locals think that the graffiti is just the scrawl made by druggies who go up there to get high, and it sometimes is crude and vulgar.  But often it is well done.  I can't always read it but you can see that it is thoughtfully executed.  I had seen on Misia's website that when she was on a similar residency in Italy she was fascinated by things other than the beauty of nature, so I thought she would enjoy seeing the graffiti.  She did.  She will work it into her project somehow and in the process make a brief reference to me because she associates me with words.  Unfortunately, I will be in China when she makes her presentation, but we will keep in touch and she will send me the link to her work.

As we were walking one day it occurred to me that she would like to see the Ballets Jazz de Montreal. I had just bought a ticket to their performance here.  She said that she had thought of going but tickets were too expensive, so I gave her $20.00 dollars that I had in my pocket to lower the price for her.  Last night I picked her up at the Caetani and we went together.  I have seen them before and liked their work, but last night's show was exceptional.  It was brilliant and energetic and went from indigenous, Rodrigo Pederneiras' "Rouge", to intimate,Benjamin Millepied's "Closer" to the frenetic pace of daily life today, Andonis Foniadakis' "Kosmos".  We stayed for the discussion with the artistic director, Louis Robitaille after the show.  I don't normally do this because I feel so ill at ease in such sessions where people ask their questions that sometimes make me feel embarrassed for some reason.  But I stayed for her sake and learned what I often do, that it's usually a good idea to put myself in situations that I too easily avoid. We both left the Art Centre energized. We didn't talk much but she said something that cracked me up. She mentioned how good Louis's English was, which is true but went on to add that he hardly had any accent, which is not.  His accent was extremely and attractively French.  In fact I think that that is half the reason why I listened so attentively to him and ignored the questions he was asked.

The last flowers in Polson Park.  I took this picture while on a bike ride with Mo and John yesterday.  The next time I'm on a bike I will be in Vietnam.

October 1

The days are getting shorter, and we rest in the sunny spots instead of the shade when we are biking or hiking.Those are the main signs of fall that I have felt so far.  The poplars are yellowing, but the larch are still green; there are very few trees with fiery leaves in the Okanagan.  I'm going to see The Cowboy Junkies tonight at the Arts Centre.  Patrice asked weeks ago if I wanted to join her.  I'm glad I said yes because it's been a good day, but it's rainy and cool now and the music might liven me up.

Jay and the gang are moving to their new place today.  They are renting a house with a yard, a garage a good view and a 70 year old man in the basement apartment.  I haven't seen it yet, nor have they come by today, so I guess they will move the stuff that's here later.  I have invited them for dinner Sunday. 

 I went for a really good fall bike ride with some friends on Wednesday.  We were on the roads back of Lumby and stopped on the way back at a farm where we bought so many vegetables that my panniers were more loaded than they have ever been.  I bought two huge cabbages.  This morning I used much of the green one to make cabbage rolls for tomorrow.  I googled a good way to separate the leaves.  You remove the core and place the whole cabbage in the microwave for 5-6 minutes.  It's not dead easy; I still had to work on them under running water, but it's the best method I've ever used.  I then baked the rolls and hope that they taste as good tomorrow as they smelled today.

It's now Sunday.  The Cowboy Junkies did NOT liven me up. I've heard their songs on the CBC, but never before listened to their music for an extended period of time. I did last night, and it is decidedly NOT lively.  The singer, Margo Timmins admitted part way through the second set that they had only ever produced one happy song.  They are three siblings by the name of Timmins and two others, all from Toronto.  Even though an entire concert of their music is too intensely emotional and raucous for my liking, I was drawn in last night by their commitment to it.  They have a big fan base in Vernon; the Arts Centre was packed. It was the celebration of the 15th Anniversary of the Vernon Arts Centre.  Patrice and I laughed as we were leaving.  It made me think of the line, "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to."  I guess they wanted to. 

The cabbages

The happy gang after eating the cabbage rolls

Another beginning

I haven't sat down to the blog in over 2 weeks.  A lot has happened.  I spent 5 days looking after 2 old dogs and house sitting for a friend of a friend who lives on the shore of Kal Lake.  From that I learned that although I miss living on water, it's not worth taking on 2 sick old dogs just to be there.

I returned to my little house in downtown Vernon and life alone in it.  Jay, May and the girls have moved out.  They haven't bought a place of their own yet; they are living in a suite in a local hotel.  The stress of the girls' starting school again, the search for a home to buy and May's worries about my having to live in the midst of it all finally became too much.  They are presently staying in a suite she found in a local hotel that is owned by Koreans and run by Filipinos.  That must be some kind of 'going around coming around'.   They have known a lot of work and difficult times in the last few years, so I'm sure things will work out.  I feel rather hollow sitting here alone in the house after not having seen any of them in over a week.  We had some raucous good times together.  I'm sure we will have more, just not at such close quarters for a while.

I have spent the last 2 days playing house for the first time in almost 15 months.  Of course Jay, May and the girls have left lots of their stuff here, including so many shoes I would need a calculator to count them; it's all in one bedroom, a large closet in the basement and Jim's Eccentricity.  The basement room and bathroom had been bursting with the girls clothes and makeup since Jay finished it, so it's fun to see it almost naked for the first time.  I can't complain about being well fed by May for over a year, but I have enjoyed rediscovering the kitchen and starting to cook again.  If I fall back into a diet of nachos and salad and chicken, yams and potatoes baked in the toaster oven again, I may long for May's food.  In fact I'm sure I will.

The last roses of summer in the yard.

The most recent addition to the front yard, a driftwood creature I lugged up from the beach the last time I was in Victoria.

The Search Is On

Jay just came into my room to show me the realtors' pages for two houses that he is quite keen on. He went to see them alone because May is working.  A first house is a big step. Talking with him, a memory of building our first one overwhelmed me for a moment, the intensity of the time.  Each decision about the drilling of the well, the placement of the septic, the Rumsford fireplace, the size of the rocks for the heat sink, the amount of overhang of the roof, the materials to make the living room floor a passive solar heat sink ...  While they were in Korea, they saved quite a bit of money so they have a good down payment and Jay has been pre approved for a mortgage, but realty seems to be on the move in the Okanagan, so they are among the many would be buyers.  It seems as if people who can't afford to buy in Vancouver are looking in Victoria and here.  

I can't put my finger on it, but there's something stirring in the girls this week.  I wouldn't call it a sysmic shift, but they're rising from the basement before noon.  School starts next week.  Jin will join Min at Seaton High School.  Imagine, their second year of school in Canada, in English.  Teenage girls appear to be doing nothing, sleeping from 2:00am until 2:00pm, but something's happening there even if what it is "ain't exactly clear".   And it ain't.  The family has done a lot in a year.  

Living in the wake of their turmoil and progress can be exhausting, even irritating, but it's not boring.  

Windy and warm in Vernon

We are all enjoying a lazy Sunday. I got back yesterday afternoon from four days of hiking around Sol Mountain Lodge with the VOC. I made it to the top of Mount Fosthall, the highest peak in the Monashees, one day, so I'm happy to do very little today.  Jay has been working hard in the extreme heat we've been having. His legs cramped so badly one night that the pain had him dancing around the bedroom like a dervish. May was laughing her head off because he looked funny. The next day he had to leave work at noon because of  cramping. Since then he's been drinking a lot of water, eating bananas and feeling better, just tired because as well as his regular work he's doing a private job. May has lots of weird shifts at the casino, and the girls have been doing a whole bunch of nothing. Today we're all doing that. 

My holiday at Sol Mountain Lodge was wonderful. About 20 of us drove 21/2 hours up from Revelstoke in trucks on a really rough logging road. We parked the trucks and hiked 1.9km to the lodge. In the winter you have to go in and out by helicopter. The lodge is plain but comfortable, the staff is friendly and the cook is a wonder. He trained in Charlottetown. His food was tasty, healthy, artfully 'plated' and practically waste free. It was a treat to be able to spend four days doing nothing but hike with friends in spectacular back country.  Some of us swam for a few seconds in Sol Lake one day. Getting to the top of Fosthall on the second day took everything I had, so on the other days I took easier hikes. A highlight of every day was the late afternoon sauna. It was such big one that even though it had an airtight stove to heat it, it never got as hot as ours used to, but it was enough so that after a dry session, cold outdoor shower, wet sauna and second shower, you were feeling no pain.  On the first day Mo and I were alone, but each day we got more converts.  My iPhone camera stopped working on the first day, so I couldn't take pictures. I hope some people will send me theirs.  

On the way to Mount Fosthall

Mount Fosthall

The VOC on Fosthall. It is the highest peak in the Manashees. When Jim and I first came to Vernon we skied at Silver Star.  We arrived in the condo we had rented at night so saw nothing, but in the morning when I opened the curtains I was overwhelmed by the sight of the luminous snow capped mountains in the distance.  Jim said they were the Monashees.  Now I have been to the top of the highest mountain in that range.  It's not a classic looking peak, and although I was exhausted by the time we got back to the lodge, it was not a difficult hike, but I felt I had come full circle to a certain extent.

The whole gang outside Sol Mountain Lodge

Back with Barbara and Terry

It's blackberry season in Victoria.  Last year Bill, Sharon and I biked by some patches on the Galloping Goose near the end of July, but this year it's the height of the season right now.  None of the wild berries is as big and sweet as the ones you buy.  In fact a lot of them are sour, but I'm getting better at picking only those that are soft, black, shiny and not so far into the bush that the deadly thorns draw blood as I pull my arm back.

For the first time since I biked with dad about 15 years ago, I went along the shore roads from Barbara and Terry's in Vic West to the house that Liz and Ross rented in Cadboro Bay.  It was a good change from the Galloping Goose.  Drivers in downtown Victoria and along Dallas Road and Beach Drive go slowly and are used to sharing the road with bikers.  On the ride back I went into almost every road and path that led to the ocean and walked the beaches a bit.  I really enjoyed that. 

Every time I go out in the kayak I learn something new.  Last time it was raising the seat with some styrofoam and this time I finally figured out how to adjust the seat so that I am not sitting too far forward.  Since my first impulse is to do something the wrong way, one of my greatest sources of delight is eventually discovering the right way and for a brief thrilling moment thinking I've invented the wheel.  This time I paddled up the Gorge to a bridge where the water swirled so much that I chickened out, turned around and went back to the inner harbour.

Staying with Barbara and Terry is the usual wonderful holiday.  They've had quite a few friends and relatives staying with them this summer.  On my first day here I joined them for a delicious lunch of leftovers, a lot of good things that remained after their last guests had left.  Yesterday, we drove to Saxe Point Park and then went out for lunch.

The Walkerton Van de Vyveres provide the big news.  Brian had a mild stroke in July but is recovering well at home now and David and Dana have a daughter, Leah.  She was born in the early morning of Aug.8 and weighed 9.03 lbs.

A gilt gate and wedding cake fountain in Uplands

Me with my bike in James Bay Park at the tree where we took Jay's picture when he was 5 and 15

A heron I drifted up to in my Kayak near the shipyard on the Gorge

Barbara and Terry at Saxe Point Park

Leah Van de Vyvere

Waiting for the 4:00pm ferry to Victoria

It's been a perfect day for a drive to Victoria, and now I just have a one hour wait for the next ferry. I'm sitting against a parched looking poplar, under a clear, blue sky. There's a breeze off the ocean that's fresh and only tainted occasionally by diesel fumes as transports pass.  People are calmly waiting around after a hectic drive.  There was quite a bit of traffic between Hope and here. The PetroCan in Hope was packed; I had to back into the one space left.  People looked harried both there and at the McDonald's where I stopped for a medium Americano, which wasn't bad for $2.50.  It and the apparently contagious spirit of rush kept me awake all the way here, so for the first time ever on this trip I didn't take a nap in Hope.  Driving in BC in summer, like old age, is not for the faint of heart.  But now I'm metaphorically in "port after stormy sea".  And the sea ahead looks calm.  

Jay is finding some faults in the running of On Side, but is still a willing worker.  May has worked enough shifts at the Casino to have been given more responsibility and let in on some of the gossip.  The girls continue to rest up for the fall; although May has been giving them more and more housework to do and controlling her urges to redo the things that don't quite meet her standards.

What a wonderful ride on the ferry.  I owe a lot to mom and dad and Babara and Terry for giving me a reason to take it so often.  It now costs $63.15, one way for a senior. Sometimes that seems like a lot, but at this moment, sitting on a bench on the starboard side, in a breeze that is a buffeting wind at the bow, watching the dark green islands sitting in the sea with the sun's light brilliant in front of them and the distant hills dark beyond, iced in a thin line of white clouds beneath a pastel blue sky, I can't count the cost.  Neither my words nor my poor old iPhone 4S camera can do it justice.  Soon I'll be walking up and down the docks at the Oak Bay Marina as the sun goes down.  It's the only marina I know of that is completely unlocked.  Anyone can wander around among the boats.  The first time I remember doing it was years ago with dad.  We were having fun commenting on the names of the boats.  One raised his ire.  It was 'We're here'.  I had just been thinking it was not a bad name for a boat that sailed from port to port when dad scoffed," I'll give you a dollar for the sexual orientation of the owner of that boat".   He followed this with a brief chant of, "We're here.  We're queer."  He'd had enough of pride parades in Victoria.  This reminded me of mom's anger over the fact that homosexuals had made her word 'gay' their own.  The 'Gay Girls' who played bridge every Thursday were now just 'The Girls' and she wasn't happy about it.  By their mid 80s they readily admitted that the world was a strange place to them.  My dad never was able to tolerate even the smell of garlic but he did finally and reluctantly recognize that Canada was now full of people who actually ate it.  My mother never accepted the fact that you could wear anything you wanted anywhere, even joggers and things that looked like pyjamas in an airport. And these people even hugged their pillow under their arm as they sprawled over the floors and chairs of the waiting room playing with their 'devices' as they awaited their flights. She and dad had dressed in suit, tie and fur coat to go to the evening hockey games in Thunder Bay in the 50s.  They had nothing to do with computers and only a tenuous hold on the tv remote.  It's just over a year since mom died and returning to Victoria fills me with memories of them, even the things that drove me crazy come back as stories that make me smile, better remembered than lived through.  

The South Korean military band at the Vernon Military Tattoo.  They were the hit of the show for me and many of the others there.  As you can see, they don't fit the stereotype of a military band; they had dancers, acrobats and a weird two man animal, as well as screeching horns that weren't as stirring as bagpipes but were almost as loud and potentially irritating.  Koreans are a strange mix of regimentation and whimsy.  

May and I picked these apricots from a friend's tree one evening last week. It was fun, but we couldn't eat them all so I made two kinds of jam and ruined the last ones by trying to dry them without a real fruit dryer. 

The heat's on

An orchardist said this morning on CBC that they had lost about a third of their cherry crop this year because of splitting caused by too much rain. But the heat seems to be here now, and although it's cloudy today, there's nothing but sun in the forecast. 

 The world situation is much gloomier: disturbed, angry, unemployed people grasping on to extreme causes and unleashing terrible violence while the powers that be take advantage of the chaos to instil fear and tighten their control, sometimes unsuccessfully.  Brexit was a surprise to David Cameron,  but Erdogan seems to be working the failed coup to his advantage. And as the Democratic Convention begins today with the revelation of an anti Sanders campaign by the party powerful, Trump must be jubilant. The vision of him head hunting and arm wrestling with Putin makes reality tv seem tame. And what are we doing selling arms to the Saudis?

Back in the Okanagan, I've been escaping to the hills and water that surround us. 

On the Twin Lakes hike, approaching the lakes below. 

Me on the shore of one of the lakes.  I didn't  jump in this year because there was more snow than ever. It came right into the lake at points. 

My kayak on the shore of Swan Lake. 

One of the many turtles I disturbed as I paddled  

Weird Weather

July in Vernon is usually hotter and sunnier than it is this year, but I'm not complaining, yet, although lots of locals are.  The yard looks better than it usually does because the weedy lawn in front of the house is more green than beige.  And I like doing things outside when it's cool and cloudy much of the time. 

Min Hee and Jin Hee performed the miracle of turning night into day.  Their day is 12 hours, from around 2pm to 2am and they sleep most of the other 12 hours, the listless summer life of teenage girls.  I'm usually back from doing my main activity of the day in time to see them shuffling around the kitchen looking for something to eat for breakfast.  I get up for my mid night trip to the loo just in time to see the last glow of the lights in their room.  

Meanwhile back in the adult world, Jay is working 8 hours or more five days a week.  He gets quite a bit of overtime because On Side takes jobs anywhere between Kamloops and Kelowna.  May has spent the last two weeks training to work in the Vernon Casino.  This is a record length of time for her to stick with one job. She finds it challenging work and seems to be impressing the trainers because they are introducing her to different aspects of the work so that they will be able to call her more often and get her off part time and on to full time, which is her goal, as soon as possible. She's been very busy with the girls, each of whom has had problems lately, but her aim is to get work and earn money.  She's been surprised by how much more difficult that is in Canada than it was in Korea, where she made a lot working in English language daycare and tutoring in English.  

My main adventure lately has been hiking on Queest Mountain in the Shuswap last Sunday. Fortunately I didn't take my car.  I never do.  I walk to the City Hall, where the VOC meets, and take advantage of their excellent system whereby passengers pay a set rate to drivers who have high clearance vehicles.  My little Mazda 3 is a great car but it could never have cleared the water trenches in the road to Queest.  It took ages for the trucks and SUVs to bump and scrape their way up.  Drivers were cursing the hike leader who had said the road was passable.  The hike itself began as an uphill grind on an ugly all terrain road, so the negativity continued. But once we started walking up the trail, across the alpine meadow and over the snow the tone changed.  The views of Shuswap Lake and Mara Lake with the Monashees in the distance were worth it all, certainly for those of us who only paid $20.00 and didn't have the undercarriage of our cars dented and paint jobs scratched.

Glacier lilies on the meadow on Queest

Walking across a meadow

The VOC on Queest